The Connections Can Find You

I believe in the Nostradamus theory of attraction.  

Nostradamus was a 16th century seer.  His present-day followers believe that he predicted big world events such as the Great Fire of London, Napoleon, World War II, and even the 911 terrorist attacks. Indeed when I read some of his words I can sort of see where those followers are coming from - just got to read into the imagery a bit. Maybe I can find next week’s lottery numbers.  

However what I have also learned about Nostradamus was that he babbled non-stop and people wrote down everything he said. With countless manuscripts full of his lucid visions, its easy to find something that sounds like a modern-day event. 

Nostradamus was a ladies man, I figure.  I want you to be Nostradamus.  I want you to understand that if you reveal enough about yourself a woman will find something to connect with.  

Most guys ask questions, make ‘God’ statements and try to force a connection with a woman:

Him: “Do you work out?” Her: “Yeah, I run.” Him: “Running is great.”

Her: “I hate traffic.” Him: “Yeah, traffic sucks.”

Her: “Where are all the confident men?” Him: “You’re right.  Confident men are more attractive.”

These are examples of ways that guys attempt to connect with a woman.  To my ear they sound fake.  Why? Because there is nothing unique or personal about the guy’s words.  They’re just pleasant-sounding mush. It’s not believable that he agrees with her.  When a guy approaches a woman and tries to relate, she becomes suspicious.  It just doesn’t ring true. 

It’s much better if you allow connection to find you.  Nostradamus was great at this.  He blubbered on so much that connections with real-life, future-events actually found him. 

Think about everything that you know, think and feel.  Think about the sum of your individual experiences.  Now pick out any woman you find attractive.  May as well take the girl on the cover of Vogue magazine.  She looks perfect.  Now consider this.  If you and this girl took ten minutes to write down twenty likes, dislikes and vulnerabilities I bet I could take both lists and find at least five commonalities.  Maybe you are both rabid Tennis fans.  Maybe you share the same favorite novel.  Maybe you both need an occasional rainy day.  Maybe she is attracted to Katherine Heigl, just like you. Those commonalities would be authentic, unforced and… cool.  

So WWND?  What exactly would Nostradamus do?  Better yet, what will you do?

I think you should persistently talk in the ‘I’ perspective.  I have faith that if you express yourself often enough, in a personal manner, you will never have to try to connect with a woman, the connection will find you.  

-Wayne