There’s just something about him…

Have you ever seen an attractive woman in a relationship with a less physically attractive partner who does not appear outwardly to be particularly successful, rich or desirable? Have you ever wondered, or asked, why these women choose to stay with their man, despite many other attractive offers? In my experience, women often respond to this question with a thoughtful, dreamy look in their eyes before responding with a smile ‘…I don’t know, there’s just something about him.’

There’s just something about him. I have heard this phrase on countless occasions from women when attempting to describe their attraction to a certain few men whom, by all perceived standards in Western society, would be considered as being far from the stereotypical ideal. ‘Sexy ugly’ is another term I have heard used for it. This refers to a man who is nothing special, even unattractive, to look at, yet when he opens his mouth his words and actions have a captivating quality that can induce racing pulses, weak knees and women falling at his feet.

So what is this ‘something’, that these lucky few men possess, which captivates and charms the women they meet and leads them to shun the advances of other, seemingly more eligible suitors?

Before defining what I think it is, let’s look at a few examples of such men. Woody Allen would be one. Despite being short, neurotic, big-nosed, bespectacled and balding (sorry Woody, I love your films), he still managed to land Mia Farrow and Diane Keaton, two women considered to be some of the most beautiful and talented actresses of the ‘70s and ‘80s. Javier Bardém is another. Speaking of Allen, have you seen Bardém in his film “Vicki Cristina Barcelona”? This is compulsory viewing for all aspiring ladies’ men. Bardém, to me at least, is hardly an oil painting, yet he carries himself with such unflinching confidence and masculine energy that when he succeeds in seducing all three of the leading women in the film, it hardly seems a surprise. Last time I looked he had just got married to his co-star in this movie, Penelope Cruz.

More traditional lotharios would appear to support this theory too. Casanova, the most notorious of them all, was reportedly average-looking at best, yet what he lacked in looks, he seemed to make up for with a compelling aura and manner of expressing himself which captivated the many women he fell into bed with. Likewise, more recently, Jean-Paul Sartre, the French philosopher and seducer, a dwarf by all accounts who had a lazy eye, was able to attract women by explaining their soul to them, the very essence of their being, in such a profound way that they instantly became enamored.

There are many more examples of such men that come to mind. Mick Jagger, Owen Wilson, Benicio del Toro, Gordon Ramsey…I would certainly not consider any of these men to be conventionally good-looking, but the girls don’t seem to care one jot.

Sure, you could argue the men I have mentioned are famous actors, musicians, philosophers and directors, but I believe that their appeal runs far deeper than that. Here at Charisma Arts, we believe that being sexy, whether you are a man or a woman, goes far beyond simple physical features. It is having a certain kind of confidence, a joy and appreciation for life, a passion, a dream and a strong identity which resonates outwards from a core of being. I have found myself attracted to women whom I do not consider to be traditionally beautiful, but who stir something in me and draw me into this aura.

It is also about understanding the psychology of a beautiful woman; their tests, their hopes and fears, and ultimately the realization that they are often just normal girls who crave genuine love and affection in this world more than most. Many of the men I have mentioned above will have had a keen understanding of a woman’s soul, an understanding they will have honed from years of trial and error and many failed attempts, believe me. Ladies’ men are not born, they are most certainly made.

So for anyone who doubts their ability to date the women they want – know this; women are not necessarily attracted to men who are good-looking, they are attracted to men who have learned the skills to communicate with them in an attractive way. I myself am thin, not particularly tall or especially good-looking, and yet I am able to attract numerous women whom, just a few years ago, I would have thought would never go for me.

I expect that you have some role-models of your own. Listen to them speak, and look at the way they hold themselves and interact with the world around them. They probably have a passion in their lives, something that pulls them outwards into the world to express their gift, and this is why they attract a lot of people to their cause. I get a distinct sense of this aura from listening to Wayne and Dan speak at their talks.

If you would like to learn first-hand what I am referring to, then I would be delighted to teach you the skills that I have learned on a Private Instruction or Phone Coaching. I believe that knowing how to release this part of yourself is paramount to improving your success with women and so I devote significant time to helping you realize this potential. You too can become more attractive, more compelling and more charismatic than you ever thought possible. You too can be that person who just has that special something about them.

Thanks,

Harry