As a kid I used to lie in bed at night and fantasize about growing facial hair. I thought that if I wore a mustache, people would have to do what I said.
Spend time with children and you’ll learn a simple truth – they’re obsessed with power. It makes sense. They’re the least powerful people in the world. They’re told when to sleep, what to eat, what to wear, what to think. They dream of being bosses or police officers or international super criminals.
After becoming adults we realize few power trips are worth the trouble. Being the boss at work means you have responsibilities, sporting muscles means you spend your days at the gym, even politicians have to appease voters.
But I was fascinated from the moment I understood the concept of being sexy. “You mean to tell me, people want to be around and help you just because you have a hard to explain but omni-present aura? Where do I sign up?”
Sexy people have power over others without the overhead of other roads to power. Sexy is cheap, portable and pollution free.
But understanding what makes a person sexy has been an uncertain quest for me with lots of stutter steps. I hope to share some of that journey with you.
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I couldn’t sleep so I decided to check out your website. It has always been able to find an interesting and informative read, and this article was no exception. I really like how well you laid everything out and used personal experiences (or those of friends) to drive your point home. The little comments you also mention (e.g. hey I like your smile, you should let it out more.) are really useful comments to incorporate into one’s conversation. I should probably get some sleep for my 8:30 class but just wanted to say great job as always!
Thanks Blake!
Now yeah, I hope you get some sleep.
PS I’m presuming there are some attractive girls in this class or why get up so early…
Hi Wayne
. So here is charismo v2.0:
I’d also like to add that sexy people wear a red scarf
http://img192.imageshack.us/img192/5031/charismopurple.jpg
My favorite chapter is the last one. And I think it chimes in with your “train is late” article. It’s been a sort of an eye opener for me. Recently I was walking with a girl. We arrived at a spot where the sun rays fell on her face, and she started smiling. I loved that expression but was too shy to tell her!
Ha. Funny picture Shuksan. Thanks for the comment and letting me know you liked it. I wish next time you tell her.
Wayne, that was the most fun I’ve had reading in over a year (and I read a LOT!)
Thank you.
p.s. As an avid meditator (15+ years now) interested in learning the social skills of “pickup”, your style easily resonates the most with me.
I’m really happy I found your blog, Wayne.
You were a big influence on me back in the day. After a recent overseas trip, I realized I don’t talk to strangers enough in everyday life. “Juggler’ll know what to do” was one of my first thoughts.
So, I was really happy to find this blog. The posts are a lot of fun – you write like a veteran storyteller, not a blogger. I like that.
The reason I’m posting, though, is to say I really like the “sexy people make others feel sexy” bit. I think that’s so important at a time when many know how to take but not give. People – especially guys coming from a PUA background – are co concerned with gaming and taking advantage of each other when few things are more attractive than sharing positive vibes.
Thank you
George
I’m really happy you found my blog too George. I’m glad you find the posts entertaining. I try to write like I advice people to speak. I agree completely about your thoughts on Sexy people. Too often people are just trying to take. That kind of thing makes me feel icky. So I’m glad you connect to what I’m trying to do in that regard. Stay in touch.
Reminder: Write article about “evil swimsuit model.”
Hi Wayne, I liked each of these unique articles…I will definitely have to reread them… I might suggest to release 1 step a day…10 steps felt a little overwhelming for me all at once
Interesting idea BK. I might have to consider that for next time.
Wayne, you’re the man. I’ve been following your stuff for a few years now. Any success I’ve had with women I credit to you. I really like these multi-page articles – you’re not just repeating yourself either, some of your thoughts seem to be evolving. For example, in the Zen test when talking to the teller the correct answer was “Great now that I’m talking with you” (something like that), and said that talking about yourself bores them. But I’ve been employing your old method of “I’m about a 7 because [interesting thing here]“. Do you not recommend that anymore? In my own experience its hit or miss, sometimes theyll laugh and talk sometimes theyll just say my total.
Thanks for the comment Jean-Ralphio. It’s great to hear from you. I appreciate you writing to let me know I’ve been helpful. As far as the answers, well it depends on everything around you and your intent. It’s okay if they just laugh or not say anything. It’s all where you take it from there. I try to just react to what they give me at that point. Hope that makes sense.
Great article, again! I like how you don’t take yourself too seriously, and at the same time write about communication while being yourself. And the funny examples make me crave for more (you meant them to be funny, right? Right?).
Funny? Who me? Well, sometimes. But I say and write a lot of bombs too.
Ha. Thanks Theo. Your feedback makes me smile.
Awesome post! I hope that writing such a long post is not taking away too much time from finishing with the two new books CA is to publish. If the writing is half as good as this – I can’t wait to give you my money!
Thanks Conal. I appreciate you saying you like my writing. Feedback such as yours keeps me excited to keep producing more content for you. The books are coming along nicely…
Wayne, you’re just awesome. I love your articles. I had to read this, t didn’t even matter to me the fact that I’m late for class.
Thanks Reality2Void. I hope you didn’t miss too much of the biology class. Is that the one taught by the hot grad student?